My name is Jennifer Braly. I have Gender Identity Disorder also known as Gender Dysphoria. I have the most serve case as I am a male to female transsexual. I have lived with this condition for the first 36 years of my life and I am now 39. The first 36 years of my life I tried everything to conform to the male standard but nothing ever seemed to work. I had two marriages and both ended in divorce. My second marriage ended with my ex wife being pregnant with my daughter. A three year visitation battle ensued because of my decision to transition into the woman I am today, and because of my stubborn ex wife with no compassion to let me see my daughter took me to court and won because there are no laws protecting transsexuals.In the end for lack of representation in court I ended up having to sign my rights away.
I started my transition in October of 2010 with the hormone replacement therapy. That has been extremely successful during the last two and a half years of my life. I started living full time as a female in January 1st 2011 with legal name and gender change on identifying documents such as SS# card and state issued DL. I have spent an approximate amount of $5000 to $6000 on hormone therapy, doctor visits, and laser hair removal to be femininely passable. As you can tell from my photo the results have been good.
I was a full-time student at the University of Arkansas Fort Smith. Most of my life is pretty normal as fitting into female society. I am passable and had a part-time job. At the University I am running into problems all over the place. When I started living full-time as female at the University I was fine. I was living in stealth mode, quiet, and kept to myself. It just seemed safe. I would use women's public bathrooms with out any complaints.
Then I took General Psychology and had asked the professor if I could give a lecture on Gender Identity Disorders for some extra credit. She not only allowed me to speak to my class but her other 2 classes as well. She also referred me to another professor, and I spoke in his class too. I was excited I was educating people about being a transsexual, and the other types of Gender Identity Disorders. Those lectures would be the beginning of all my problems. As I did get many great responses from students how my lectures greatly changed their perspective of what transsexuals are, some students were not so accepting. Some saw me using the women's public restrooms, and complained to the University that they didn't think I should be using the restroom with them. So the University called me into a meeting and told me I had to use unisex bathrooms and that was it. I can't use any male or female public bathrooms. One problem to this is there are not unisex bathrooms in every building. Especially the two main buildings where most of my classes are, so I have to go to a completely different building to use the restroom.
My second problem arose when I tried to move onto campus so I could try and bring my grades up. There came a problem that they would not let me room with males, and I could not room with females either unless I became friends with them and disclosed all my medical information to them about my transsexualism. I tried to be creative and work with them on this, but to no prevail it did not work.They would not give me a list of girls who live on campus that I could go and talk too. They would not even talk to girls on my behalf when I said I would sign a consent of release of information. They won't let me enter the sign up lottery like every other person does. Normally when its time to sign up for rooms people just go in sign up for a room and then the next semester you could be living with someone you might know or a complete stranger. I am frustrated and highly depressed about all of these unfair restrictions. I live as a woman full-time and have been for a year and a half now. I have natural breast development bigger than some normal genetic girls from my hormone treatment.
The only thing restricting me is whats between my legs. Everyone is so concerned with whats between my legs. I am just as much woman as anyone else. I have legally changed my name, and have a gender change on my drivers license by the state of Arkansas as an "F" for female. Therefore regardless of where I am at in my transition I should have the same rights as every other female. I finally did get those rights granted to me after I called the Department of Justice in Washington D.C. They reviewed my complaint about the university's discrimination and did find them guilty of infringing on my civil rights.
Basically the University has said if I had already had SRS surgery non of these issues would be a problem on campus. I go to school full time, and work part-time and bring home around $600 a month. That pays for my food, gas, car insurance, quarterly doctors visits for my hormone therapy, my $80 a month supply of hormones, $200 every 2 months for laser hair removal, the required psychotherapy for transsexuals, clothes like bra's as my breast size changes, and so forth... I'm sure you get the picture. That leaves me very little for anything else. I am reaching out for help because I so need this surgery so I can fully integrate into female society, but I have no way of saving the kind of money it takes to get such a surgery done. If I could have the surgery all these problems at school, and any where else in society would go away. I would also be able to quit some of the hormone replacement drugs such as the ones that block testosterone, the depression medications, and psychotherapy treatment. Which would free up money to live a normal female life and be able to enjoy life.
Even religious denominations have refused me to come to there churches. Most have said go back to being a male and you can come or they have said if you had already had the surgery, and it was irreversible that I could then join them.
Why is it that so many people are concerned with whats between my legs, and not who I am as a person. It creates so much distress and self hate towards my own body. All of this discrimination has caused me 4 attempts of suicide from June 2012 to December 10th of 2012 which landed me in a psychiatric hospital for the whole month of December. I am now at a new school in Toledo Ohio, and have had much better reactions from people accepting me. I've been able to use the women's restrooms and locker rooms with no harassment what soever. The school requires students to carry medical insurance, and I have their insurance that they provide through the university. Although the insurance as an exemption clause not covering gender reassignment surgery. I have used it to better my health which is helping me feel a bit more human, but I still don't feel like I am complete.
I am reaching out for help. Pleading because I have no way to get the surgery I need so I can fully integrate into female society, and live a happy full filling life. I have chosen Dr. Christine McGinn as the surgeon to do the surgery. My reason for picking her is she is a male to female transsexual too. She will know what results I am looking for, and she will treat me with great respect and care for she understands what I am go through. Her fee's are $18,500. She will allow an intial deposite of $1000 down to book the surgery and the remaining balance must be paid by the surgery date. If failure to pay the full amount by surgery date your surgery is cancelled and you lose all the money paid and have to start over. My plans are to try and raise at least half the money and then put that down to set a date and hope to raise the other half by the surgery date. I would like to have the surgery either December 2013, Summer of 2014, or December 2014. I choose these dates because there is enough break between semesters that I can have the surgery and have enough recovery time before school continues.I am currently attending the University of Toledo with my major being Women's and Gender Studies. I expect to graduate in fall of 2014 or spring of 2015. I would like to graduate as a whole and complete woman.
One last note i will continue to devote my life here at this University, and any where else that I can go and speak to people educating them on Gender Identity Disorders and LGBTQ issues. I have already given over 30 lectures between University Arkansas of Fort Smith , University of Arkansas Fayetteville, and Owens Community College in Ohio. I have letters of recommendations from several professors from the various University and Colleges that I have spoken in. I also write a column for TGForum.com if you would like to kep up with some of my work in the LGBTQ community. If you would like to book me to come speak at your College or University I would be happy to come for a reasonable fee. This is just another way you can donate to my surgery fund. I am also qualified to speak on high school levels as well. Your donations will not only help me get the surgery but it will also fuel my passion to continue to educate others of what it truly means to be a transsexual and live with GID
If you have read this, and can help I would be forever grateful. I don't know if I could ever repay those who help me, but I would try my best once I get my degree to help women and the LGBTQ community. I currently work in a women's resource center for women in need of services, like food, feminine products, children's formula and diapers, and so much more. It is already full filling to work in this field. My prayer is this.. If you can help I pray you will, and I pray that God bless those who are a blessing to me and do help. May God bless you all and a sincere Thank you to all who have a heart enough to care and give. All I need is 350 people to give $53 & I can have my surgery. Will you be 1 of the 350? God Bless you all who give!!!